This is the last of the “chapters” in my Family Foundations series, aimed at helping you create a Christ-centered home.  In case you haven’t noticed I want to draw two important things to your attention. #1: So far I’ve said very little about many of the things typically addressed in a series about a Christ-centered […]

Our culture tends to be a really self centered. There is not much grace for the personal weakness of others. And so, in step with our culture, a lot of the things that you hear talked about when it comes to the difficulties of married life have to do with one of the partners being […]

The foundation of a marriage is an important thing. It’s not something to be taken lightly. This episode was the final session I gave on Sunday morning at a recent marriage retreat. The notes below are my speaking outline from that event. Subscribe to the CHAF Podcast On Android | Apple Podcasts | Stitcher | […]

The kind of marriage connection you want is possible… But you have to understand that it’s built upon other things – the individual relationships you and your spouse have with God through Christ, AND the healthy, ongoing communication you establish with each other. Only then, can the connection and unity you desire in your marriage […]

In a Christian marriage, communication is one of the foundational things that enables man and wife to live together in harmony. But more important is the WHY it’s so vital. It’s because without communication a wife and her husband are unable to understand the state of the other’s ongoing commitment to Christ and be of […]

If you’re wondering how to build marital trust, it’s really pretty simple. You’ve got to learn how to be entirely open with each other. Yes, I know it’s hard. It’s worse than hard – it’s almost impossible. But you’ve GOT to learn it if you’re going to build trust the way it is SUPPOSED to […]

Every marriage that breaks down is different. But there are similarities that I’ve learned to look for that indicate whether a couple is truly ready to do the hard work necessary to repair a broken marriage. What are those things? Brokenness Humility Ownership of their issues Willingness to repent Sorrow I don’t honestly know why […]

When you think of sex, it’s natural to think of pleasure. The tabloid’s obviously do… “How to drive him crazy in Bed.” “10 tips for amazing sex.” The goal is clearly the maximization of pleasure. If we learn the right approach, technique, or attitude the amount of pleasure we get from sex will be unbelievable. But the […]

I love the message of Casting Crown’s new video “Broken Together” In our media-saturated world seldom do I see a video that truly captures the hopes, struggles, pain, and humble reliance on God that are truly needed to make a Christ-centered, God-honoring marriage possible. This one does a good job of it. I love how […]

“You’ve changed!” “What happened to the man (woman) I married?” Such phrases are often thrown out as accusations, as if the act of getting married cements personality, habits, and preferences in place, never to change again. But that’s not how it is, is it? It sounds stupid now, but when I first married, I didn’t […]