My wife left me… I’ve heard that pain-filled confession far too often.
Sadly, that’s what it takes for some men to wake up and take their responsibility to their wife and family seriously. But much of the time, it’s too late by then.
Don’t be one of those men.
Do the work necessary to preserve and protect your marriage instead of coasting along, assuming everything is OK. Because if you are assuming, it’s most likely everything is NOT OK...
Nobody said it was going to be easy to be a godly husband. As a matter of fact the Apostle Paul said it would be excruciating at times (Ephesians 5:25).
But you are a man!
A man of God!
Step out in faith to be the man He’s made you to be!
This is a wake up call!
Get some help if you need it. Don’t let your pride kill your marriage.
Some practical steps you can take:
- Work through the Marriage Improvement Project together
- Ask me about the upcoming Marriage Improvement Project LIVE
- Seek counseling help (I offer help via video conferencing)
- Pursue your wife
- Show interest in her life
- Make sure she feels safe with you
- Give yourself for her, repeatedly
- Depend on the LORD to help you daily
Are you going to wait until your wife leaves you to take your role as husband and leader seriously?
I hope not.
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Good reminder, Carey. I would also encourage people to have serious heart-to-hearts often with their wife. Even if you think you’re a good husband, often your wife has things that are frustrating her that you don’t even know about. And then there are wonderful things you do that she appreciates that you don’t even realize.
@Loren Pinilis Agreed… that’s part of the diligence required. I often say to men, “If you go a day without knowing what is on your wife’s heart… you’ve gone too long.” Thanks for the comment friend!
@Carey Green @Loren Pinilis Wow! Thanks from a wife. I’ve never thought about it that way, but you are so right. Unfortunately for us wives, even little issues that could easily be resolved build up into a wall of hurt by the sense that our husbands don’t really want to cover us. I’m sure that’s not the case, but it can feel that way. We need to be quick to forgive and willing to communicate honestly, but we also need to know we’re being considered and listened to.
@LauraBennet Yep… it’s a tough balance that we have to rely on the Spirit of God to enable. Husbands often don’t do their part because they truly don’t see the need for it. They are men, and don’t “feel” the urgency and depth of things that women do often times. It takes a humble man to hear his wife, consider her perspective valid and important, and move toward valuing it practically. I continue to pray for you Laura.