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Monday Mindset: Worship

Posted by Carey 
· Monday, September 15th, 2014 

I once heard Chuck Swindoll say that we worship God for 4 basic things.

His PERSON

His PLANS

His WORD

and

His WORKS.

I tend to agree with Him.

Worship is a response to God. It’s a response to what He’s done in one of those 4 areas.

In this “Monday mindset” I’m encouraging you to talk with your family about worship. Here is a list of starter questions to get you going:

  • What does the word “worship” mean?
  • Is worship only about singing or music?
  • Why do you think worship is important for us? What does it do in us or for us?
  • Give me some examples of how we can worship God for who He is (PERSON)?
  • What are some ways we might worship God for what He’s done (PLANS)?
  • Can you think of ways we could worship God for the things He’s said to us (WORD)?
  • Are there ways we can worship God for what He’s done (WORKS)?
  • Do you think we can worship God throughout the day as we go about our normal routine?

To wrap up… here are some ideas for how you can follow up on the topic of worship throughout the week:

  • Each morning, give your family members the assignment of watching for reasons to worship as they go through the day.
  • Spend some time around the supper table each evening worshipping God for things your family members have noticed.
  • Be sure to share your own observations. Your kids will learn a ton by hearing the kinds of things you noticed.
  • Pick out some good videos or songs that your family can sing in worship and do it one evening.
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In my opinion, Chris Tomlin is a modern-day hymn writer. His songs are filled with deep doctrines from the word of God. This song highlights that God created us to be worshippers. Enjoy.

 

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using scripture in family devotions

Podcast 83 – How to use scripture in your family devotions

Posted by Carey 
· Wednesday, July 30th, 2014 

How to make use of scripture in your family devotions

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USING SCRIPTURE IN FAMILY DEVOTIONS

HOW DO YOU ACTUALLY DO A FAMILY DEVOTIONAL TIME?

  • For my family it consists of three parts: Song, Scripture, Prayer
  • We covered the song part last week  – www.ChristianHomeandFamily.com/82
  • This week we’ll talk about how to include scripture in your family devotional time.

Here’s an example of how I’d go about it… let’s use this passage…

Bless the LORD, O my soul, and all that is within me, bless his holy name! Bless the LORD, O my soul, and forget not all his benefits, who forgives all your iniquity, who heals all your diseases, who redeems your life from the pit, who crowns you with steadfast love and mercy, who satisfies you with good so that your youth is renewed like the eagle’s. – Psalm 103:1-5

TAKE IT SLOW

  • Make sure words like “bless”, “soul”, “benefits”, and “iniquity” are understood… remember podcast 81?
  • Explore the meanings through discussion (you don’t have to give all the answers).
  • There’s going to be no meaning and no impact if the passage is not understood.
  • Depending on the age / spiritual maturity you may only take 1 verse at a time – that’s OK.

ASK QUESTIONS (that require more than “yes / no” answers) – here are some examples:

  • What are some reasons the LORD wants us to bless Him?
  • What do you think it means that God’s name is “holy?”
  • What is forgiveness? How has God forgiven you?
  • What impression does this passage give you of God?

TELL STORIES FROM YOUR OWN LIFE THAT ARE APPLICABLE

  • Your kids need to hear about God’s work in your life.
  • It gives them real-life examples.
  • It demonstrates a pattern of how God deals with people.
  • It shows them how sinful people can relate to God.

END WITH PERSONAL APPLICATION – here’s some examples I might ask based on this passage…

  • Let’s list all the benefits the LORD has given to our family, or to us as individuals.
  • What ideas do you have of how WE can bless the LORD for all He’s done?

Carey does speaking on this and other topics. You can find out more here.

Music used by permission of Adam Rey at www.HeyReyGuitar.com

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Include music in family devotions

Podcast 82 – Integrating music into your family devotions

Posted by Carey 
· Wednesday, July 23rd, 2014 

How to integrate music into your family devotions

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USING MUSIC IN FAMILY DEVOTIONS

Including music for the sake of worship is not an easy task for most people

If you’re not musically inclined, what do you do? Before we get into the “how” part of including music in your family worship, there’s one other step we need to take first…

Talk with your family about the “WHY” behind singing…

  • Why do we sing to God in the first place?
  • It’s not only that it’s fun (though it is), it’s one way that we worship God. And remember, younger children may need an explanation of worship. See podcast 81 for details on how to go about that.
  • In singing we are speaking truths about God and to God
  • When we sing ABOUT God, it’s for our sake – to increase our faith and remind us of the truths we believe.
  • When we sing TO God, it’s in worship, for all that He is and does, to show our love and appreciation.
  • Come, let us sing for joy to the LORD; let us shout aloud to the Rock of our salvation. Let us come before him with thanksgiving and extol him with music and song. (Ps. 95:1-2)

 The easiest way I’ve found to use music is to make use of “sing along songs”

  • These are songs that you may have on a CD, mp3, or other source that is professionally produced… and your family just sings along!
  • You have a professional leading you, so the pressure’s off. You don’t have to be musical at all.
  • No instruments are needed, though you could include them if you like.
  • Everyone will be able to follow along
  • Most of the time, kids love it.
  • Find this kind of music on YouTube, internet apps like Spotify or your own collection.

A method that’s a bit harder is to use a Hymnal or song book

  • You have to know the songs well in order to do this one, and someone needs to be able to sing moderately well to start the tunes.
  • You can sing a cappella (no instruments) if you know the songs well.
  • Another option is to use songs the kids know from Sunday school (Jesus loves me, This little light of mine, etc.)

What if they won’t sing?

  • When a person won’t sing, it’s usually a heart issue, not a singing issue.
  • Find out what’s going on.
  • Is there some embarrassment? Bitterness? Something painful that needs to be explored?
  • Your job is not to get them sing, but to find out why they won’t.
  • Patient, loving inquiries will get you there in time.

Next week – Using scripture in Family devotions Carey does speaking on this and other topics. You can find out more here. Music used by permission of Adam Rey at www.HeyReyGuitar.com

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family devotions with smaller children

Podcast 81 – Family devotions with small kids in the mix

Posted by Carey 
· Wednesday, July 16th, 2014 

Family Devotions with small children in the mix

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FAMILY DEVOTIONS WITH YOUNG KIDS IN THE MIX

Before we begin to talk about the “how to” portion of family devotions with younger kids involved, let’s remind ourselves of the purpose of family devotions…

  • PURPOSE OF FAMILY DEVOTIONS: Facilitate heart-level connection between your family members and the God of the universe.

That kind of connection IS possible in the hearts and minds of younger kids. Don’t underestimate their capacity to make very real connections with the living God.

The challenges with YOUNGER CHILDREN:

  • Attention span
  • Understanding
  • Mixture of ages (How can you engage the younger children without losing the older ones – or vice versa?)

SUGGESTIONS FOR DEVOTIONS WITH YOUNGER KIDS

1. Think like a child…

  • Don’t assume too much
  • God, Jesus, sin, cross – all of these are words they may not understand.

2. Take it slow…

  • Ask questions to gauge comprehension
  • Don’t move ahead if they don’t get it
  • Make deeper topics a project, over time

3. Keep it simple…

  • One simple point is enough.
  • No need for a 3 point sermon or loads of illustrations.
  • Once they “get it,” you’re good.

4. Apply it in a relevant way… relevant to the child, that is.

  • They know “love” in the context of family and friends, so give illustrations related to those contexts.
  • If you want to illustrate the concept of “mercy”, go back to the last time they were disciplined and talk about what it would have been like if they’d received mercy… and why they didn’t.
  • Always emphasize God’s desire to help them obey His truth. That’s called “grace” and it’s why Jesus came to die.

5. If older kids are involved too… dismiss the younger kids, give an activity while you continue the conversation Next week – Using music in family devotions Carey does speaking on this and other topics. You can find out more here. Music used by permission of Adam Rey at www.HeyReyGuitar.com

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Getting started with family devotions

Podcast 80 – Getting started with family devotions

Posted by Carey 
· Wednesday, July 9th, 2014 

HOW TO START FAMILY DEVOTIONS

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How to begin your own family devotions

UNDERSTAND YOUR PURPOSE

  • Family devotions are intended to facilitate heart-level spiritual growth. They are not just about getting more knowledge into your head (or the heads of your kids). So your goal in devotions should never be to teach your kids to be perfect little theologians, having all the answers to every questoion, or applying religious formulas for a happy day/life.
  • Family devotions are about relationship – between each member of your family and God. Your family devotionals are for the purpose of pointing every one of you, every day, toward God and His purpose for your lives.

That can be done at breakfast, before bed, after dinner – or all of the above. You pick and be consistent.

SOME FOUNDATIONAL PRINCIPLES FOR PARENTS

1. Be real

  • From your real-life experience (no fakers allowed). You need to demonstrate what an authentic relationship with God looks like, warts, mistakes, and all.
  • Be who you are. Don’t get over enthused about family devotions just because you want your kids to be excited. Be who you are and let God lead you in the enthusiasm part.

2. Use your Bible

  • When you pick up the scriptures, your demonstrating that there’s something of value between the covers of that book.
  • Makes the scriptures an authority to your kids, not just an irrelevant old book.

3. Be flexible

  • Stuff will happen. Phones will ring, burps will happen in the midst of prayers, readers will mispronounce words as they read the scriptures. Roll with it. God is sovereign over all those things and will use them
  • Relax.

4. Trust God to use every effort.

Remember that God is in control, and He wants your family close to Him, more than you want them close to Him. He’ll handle it. You need to let Him lead.

 Next podcast – Doing family devotions when small children are in the mix

Carey does speaking on this and other topics. You can find out more here.

Music used by permission of Adam Rey at www.HeyReyGuitar.com

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praise and worship are hard work

Praise and worship are really, really hard

Posted by Carey 
· Friday, June 6th, 2014 

Praise and worship – it’s harder than it should be.

Sadly so.

Worship itself is a response. It’s a reaction to the greatness of God.

When the heart sees, with the eyes of faith,who God is and all that He’s done, worship is the natural response.

But we don’t easily see God in that way.

Sadly, the King and Creator of the universe is obscured from His creatures by an ever-widening range of trivial things.

  • possessions
  • ambitions
  • desires
  • toys
  • gimmicks
  • false securities
… and the list goes on. That’s why true praise and genuine worship are so hard.

But there’s another reason praise and worship are so difficult…

We get used to it.

We can too easily become accustomed to worship as an activity we do, during a worship service, with other people.

It can become synonymous with music, singing, liturgies, and body postures, rather than being what it truly is; a grateful response of a heart that has seen true glory.

Genuine praise and true worship are hard because fallen people like us are prone to getting the blinds drawn between us and the glory of our Gods. We’re distracted and drawn away from an intentional, ongoing focus on Him, by lesser things. In fact, we come to prefer the lesser things over the God who has given them to us.

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So what’s a Christian parent to do? How do you learn how to genuinely worship, and then pass it on to your children?

Here’s my quick-list of tips – things you have to commit yourself to working on daily.

1 Work hard to keep the glory of God clear in your own mind.

You can never expect your children to see the glory of God if you, their parent, don’t demonstrate the importance of seeing it, in your own life. They need to see you pouring over the scriptures, and hearing why you do it. You need to repeatedly tell your kids, “I read the Bible because it shows me more and more of the wonders of God.”

But you can’t do it with no heart. You’ve got to mean it.

You’ve got to be searching the scriptures for yourself, like you’re searching for a treasure – because you are (Matthew 13:45-46). And you’ve got to be sharing that treasure with your children, every time you find it.

2 Encourage your kids to seek after the treasure for themselves.

It’s one thing to hear about a treasure somebody else has found. It’s quite another to find it yourself. Your kids need to see the glory of God personally.

They need you to help them find it.

  • Point out His glory in the sunset, and in the puppy, and in the fun of a good joke.
  • Draw out His provision and care in every blessing you share as a family.
  • Tell them how He’s held you up in your hardest times.
  • Explain to them why you will never turn away from Him.

You need to be the one who pulls up the blinds for them, to let the glory of God shine through.

3 Prepare your kids for times of corporate worship.

When your family will be joining with others for a time of worship (Sunday morning worship services, Sunday school, youth group, etc.), make sure you do some preemptive preparation.

Remind them why the activity is important. Point out how hard it can be to stay focused on God in the presence of distractions they might encounter (everything from a friend across the room to the Pastor’s unique quirks). Challenge them to seek God like treasure – in the music, in the spoken word, in the prayers, and in what He may be doing in their own hearts. Tell them you’re going to ask about their experience when it’s all over.

Then do it.

And emphasize that their experience of worship may or may not be emotional. What matters is that they work to express their apprehension or understanding of the worth of God, back to Him.

Genuine praise and worship are really, really hard…

for you and for your kids.

Make sure you do your part to help them become the true kind of worshipers the Father seeks (John 4:24).

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Below is one of my favorite songs (for now) that focuses on the greatness, awesome power, and majesty of our God. It reminds me of the kinds of things that are true of God, and nobody else. It reminds me why He is worthy of my worship and why I need to recommit myself, every day, to the hard work it takes to make sure that I AM truly worshiping Him daily.

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fruit of the Spirit

Podcast 68 – Why the fruit of the Spirit is not a checklist

Posted by Carey 
· Wednesday, April 16th, 2014 

TODAY’S PODCAST

Podcast 68 – Why the fruit of the Spirit is not a checklist

If you’ve been in Christian circles for any length of time, you’ve heard a sermon or talk about the fruit of the Spirit. You’ve seen it on plaques in people’s homes, you’ve heard children’s songs about this list of virtues.

Our human tendency is to take list of character qualities like that and make them into a checklist that we have to strive toward. We feel good if we accomplish some of them in a given day, and bad and guilty if we don ‘t.

Is that what the Apostle Paul had in mind when he made the list in the first place? In this episode of the podcast I”m going to show you, what I believe to be Paul’s intention when he created this list of character qualities, and give you some ideas about how you can approach this list with your family (children) to help them understand the true source of those kinds of amazing character traits.

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FAMILY DEVOTIONS

Family devotions – group style

Posted by Carey 
· Monday, April 7th, 2014 

There are lots of ways to do family devotions…

from Dad leading the way, to Mom or a big sister reading a Bible story or leading some kind of game or activity. All of those are great ideas, and you should do them as they fit your family.

But here’s an idea for family devotions you may not have thought of…

I’m calling it Group Family Devotions.

The idea is that everyone gets their own Bible (whatever version and age appropriate style they have) and comes together in the same room. Someone can choose a passage (Psalms, Proverbs, or a gospel account in Jesus’ life are great places to start), and everyone reads it to themselves, silently. Smaller kids can look at the pictures in their story Bible.

Take your time. 15 to 20 minutes wouldn’t be too long.

Then, stop and talk about what you’ve read.

I see a few benefits to doing family devotions this way…

1 Everybody gets to see everybody else reading God’s word. Don’t underestimate the power of this. Younger kids see their siblings reading. Older kids see their parents reading. Some may even be taking notes. Some may be praying as they read. The power of a good example is HUGE. This way of approaching family devotions helps provide that important component.

2 Everyone focuses on the same topic, but approaches it on differing levels. I can’t tell you the number of times I’ve been reading to a younger child out of a Bible storybook, and been blessed by the simple way it presents the biblical truths of a passage. You can mine great nuggets of truth out of topics like faith, love, hope, trust, etc. – just from approaching the same topic from differing levels of understanding.

3 Everyone gets to discuss what THEY understood from the story/passage. Insight will come, I guarantee it. God uses the simple observations of a child and the more life-oriented insights of an adult, to enrich everyone. There’s something for everyone to contribute, and every contribution is important.

Those are just 3 of the benefits I’ve seen from this kind of family devotional approach. Can you see others?

I’d love to hear your ideas about family devotions below!

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family worship

What IS family worship?

Posted by Carey 
· Monday, April 22nd, 2013 

 Family worship is all of life

As I write this post, my family is away, gone to help my in-laws move into their new home.

Two weeks is a very long time.

Yesterday I went to a public worship service. I went alone. It was the first time I’ve been to a public worship service since resigning from the pastorate, and it felt strange not to have my family with me.

It didn’t feel strange simply because I was by myself, but also because the words “family” and “worship” have become interrelated in my mind, things that go together. It felt strange because I’ve come to see worship as much more than a public gathering. Worship has to do with relationships more than it does rituals.

Worship, even family worship, is a way of life.

Family worship is not ONLY gathering together to sing, read the Bible, and pray. Family worship is more, yet simpler.

For a family where Christ is central, family worship is not a weekly event or gathering. Family worship is all of life.

It happens in the attitudes, conversations, relationships, and responsibilities of daily living.

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And it happens because Christ is loved, praised, honored and exalted in the lives of parents before anything else.

Don’t wait for a scheduled time or place to worship together as a family. Family worship begins when you wake each morning, when you do chores together, when you talk of the day’s events, when you tuck in your children at the end of the day.

Family worship happens as you honestly share your own struggles, and how you are rediscovering God’s grace in the midst of them. Family worship happens as you give yourself to the LORD, in full view of your kids, and they witness what He is doing in you and through you. Family worship happens as they begin to embrace the God you’ve embraced – for themselves, because of your example.

Family worship is life together, lived humbly in the presence and by the power of Christ, who is the LORD of every family member.

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Family Worship Ideas from Desire Miller

Podcast 14: Family Worship Ideas for the Christian Home –

Posted by Carey 
· Wednesday, December 5th, 2012 

Podcast 14: Family Worship Ideas for the Christian Home

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EPISODE #14

Family Worship Ideas for the Christian Home: A conversation with Desire Miller

Today’s Guest:

Family Worship Ideas from Desire MillerDesire Miller
www.WhenYouRise.com

SUMMARY OF TODAY’S PODCAST

You’ve probably heard a lot about the topic of family worship or family devotions. But many, many parents don’t know where to begin to get that idea off the ground in their own Christian home. Thanks to people like my guest today, Desire Miller, you can find great, FREE resources to get you started. Desire is the owner of When You Rise, a website that provides a ton of truly helpful and valuable resources to help you bring the scriptures down to your child’s level, and work alongside them to help introduce and grow their Christian faith.In this episode of the podcast I talk with Desire about here site, the way she got started creating this kind of curriculum, and what she hopes will come of her efforts. It was a delightful conversation about family worship resources I think you’ll enjoy!

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  • Covenant Eyes (affiliate link*)
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A couple of brief reminders:

  • I’d love to do some future episodes that are “Q & A” in nature, regarding anything related to living as a Christian family. Please submit YOUR questions to me in the comments below or in any of these ways.
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NEXT EPISODE: Podcast 15 – Christian Siblings as Best Friends

Meat & Potatoes by Adam ReyThe music track used in the Christian Home and Family Podcast is entitled, “Midian” and is from Adam Rey’s instrumental album Meat & Potatoes – Adam has generously given me permission to use his music, so please, support his generosity by checking out and purchasing his music at www.heyreyguitar.com – (no affiliate relationship, Adam’s just my friend.)

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