Why would I say Parenting magazine is anything but expert advice? – It could be because of a recent article published in the magazine entitled “20 things Moms should never feel guilty about.” (and many others they publish along the same line)
The list starts out somewhat OK, but once it rolls past #10, it gets really, uhhhh, twisted… here are some examples:
You should never feel guilty about…
12. Telling your partner you’re going to the doctor for a checkup when you’re actually going for a massage, pedicure, or to have your hair highlighted (it’s not like he’s going to notice anyway).
13. Paying cash for your massage/pedicure/highlights so he won’t discover the credit card charge.
14. Refusing another mom’s invitation to a playdate because you can’t stand it that she can leave crystal on her coffee table and toilet paper on the rollers and her baby doesn’t bother any of it.
15. Feeling a twinge of delight when the above mom’s baby still isn’t saying any words and yours has a vocabulary of six!
16. Putting on the Baby Einstein DVD for the third time before lunch so you can apply some makeup because that cute landscaping guy is due to come by and cut your grass sometime this afternoon.
So let me get this straight…
This is a magazine that endeavors to help parents be better parents. Is that right? Yet it is encouraging parents to be the kind of people they would NEVER want their child to be.
My translation of the points above…
You should never feel guilty even though you…
12. Lie to your spouse so that you can go out and do what you want to do without him knowing.
13. Practice deception to cover up your lie.
14. Be unsociable toward someone of whom you are jealous so that you don’t have to face your jealousy.
15. Take delight in the developmental delays of a BABY because of your own jealousy toward the baby’s mother.
16. Indulge in lust and fantasy… even though you have a baby lying in the next room.
See what I mean?
Parenting magazine is anything but expert advice because it misses one of THE fundamentals of good parenting… the power and importance of a good example. That is what parents are first and foremost.