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The KEY to raising godly children (OR: God-fearing children and the parents who raise them ) [Ep 102]

Posted by Carey 
· Thursday, December 14th, 2017 

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Why would I throw in my thoughts on such a popular and written-to-death sort of subject?  Because what I consider to be the KEY to raising godly children has not been said enough, or loudly enough.

The key to raising godly children is to first be a godly parent.

Don’t hear me saying you have to be perfect. Don’t hear me saying you have to make no mistakes.

DO hear me saying,

  • your relationship with Jesus had better be authentic, not just something that you do on Sundays.
  • It had better be something more than religious actions.
  • It had better be more than moralistic teaching and corresponding rules.
  • It must be an ongoing, vibrant, up-and-down-but-always-headed-upward RELATIONSHIP with Jesus.

Anything less will smell of hypocrisy, and it will absolutely stink in the nostrils of your children. You can’t fool them. They will know if you are a fake, and they will know if you really mean and live what you say.

Your kids want and need the real thing… Jesus. The best way you can give them Jesus is to give Jesus all of yourself.

The LORD has shown me this personally. I’ve seen the teachable, eager hearts of my children in response to my own honest struggles to know the LORD. And I’ve seen disinterested, doubtful responses when the churchy words coming out of my mouth don’t match the attitude of my heart.

What does it look like?

  • Your children need to hear you talk about Jesus as if He is real to you… in the day to day circumstances of life.
  • Your children need to hear you pray in a way that shows that you truly KNOW the Person you are talking with.
  • Your children need to see your love for Jesus carried out in obvious ways – commitment to a local church, genuine worship, and a desire to honor Him in all you do.
  • Your children need to know by your own devotion that prayer and Bible reading are not just “things you do,” but the lifeblood of your existence.
  • Your children need to see you so absorbed by Jesus that they want to take part in something that is so obviously wonderful.

How to raise godly children

Begin with the last half of this post title. Start by considering the spiritual health of the pare nt(s) who raise your children.  Here are some questions to help you begin…

  • Do YOU love Jesus (the LORD your God) with all YOUR heart, all YOUR soul, all YOUR mind, and all YOUR strength? (Mark 12:30) Or is there something else (spouse, work, hobbies, money, etc.) that you love more?
  • Do YOU love your neighbor (irritating co-worker, demanding boss, pesky neighbor, weird relative) as you love yourself? (Mark 12:31)
  • Do YOU seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness? (Matthew 6:33) Or are you more concerned with bank accounts, life-insurance, retirement funds, and upward mobility?
  • Do YOU set apart Christ as LORD in YOUR own heart? (1 Peter 3:15)

Start there. Go on by asking the Spirit of God to help you begin moving more diligently toward Him. Ask Him to GIVE you a heart that seeks Him first and foremost. He delights to answer those types of prayers.

Don’t even think about raising godly children if you are not first and genuinely seeking to be a godly parent.

Q: What do YOU need to do in order to move closer to Christ as a parent?

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Sexual sin and the Christian family

Posted by Carey 
· Friday, August 22nd, 2014 

We live in a tremendously sexualized culture. Sexual sin is a natural result.

Sexual sins are some of the things that destroy families and their ability to have radical faith for generations.

But sex is not the real issue behind sexual sin.

Really, it’s not.

Sexual sin happens because believers who once walked close with their LORD (or perhaps never did) have lost their joy in Him. That is where every sexual sin begins, without fail.

So how does our sexualized culture figure into that? By pushing sex (a naturally appealing thing) into the forefront of our minds and attention, to the degree that we become more enamoured with it (a created thing) than we do the joy that comes from walking closely with our LORD (the Creator).

trading jesus for sexual sin is like trading the popsicle for the stickDo you see the tragedy of that?

We’re trading the popsicle for the stick, preferring a kazoo over a stradivarius, delighting in the thing instead of the One who created it.

Are you in the danger zone?

Don’t answer this question by looking at the presence or absence of sexually titillating stuff in your world.

Answer it by how passionately drawn to Jesus you are.

He is the antidote and prevention for sexual sin, and the closer you are to Him, the farther from sexual sins you will find yourself.

So, are you in the danger zone? Are you?

Resist the temptation to point to your church attendance, or Bible reading, or faithfulness to serve in church or the community, or accountability software on your computer as “reasons” why you’re not in the danger zone.

Those things are good and likely wise things to have as a part of your life, but they don’t matter a bit when it comes to avoiding sexual temptation — not really.

What matters is how closely you are walking with Jesus, how consistently you are abiding in Him.

I am the true vine, and my Father is the vinedresser. Every branch in me that does not bear fruit he takes away, and every branch that does bear fruit he prunes, that it may bear more fruit. Already you are clean because of the word that I have spoken to you. Abide in me, and I in you. As the branch cannot bear fruit by itself, unless it abides in the vine, neither can you, unless you abide in me. I am the vine; you are the branches. Whoever abides in me and I in him, he it is that bears much fruit, for apart from me you can do nothing. If anyone does not abide in me che is thrown away like a branch and withers; and the branches are gathered, thrown into the fire, and burned. – John 15:1-6

 

sexual sin from not abiding

What will you do to get yourself to a place of sexual safety?

What will you do to intentionally, deliberately, in suffering if you must, get back on track in your relationship with Jesus?

There’s no price too high. Really, there’s not. If you don’t draw near to Jesus, your enemy the devil will get you with some kind of temptation. It may not be sexual sin, but you can mark my words, he will get you so wrapped up in something sinful that you won’t know what happened.

Draw near to Jesus.

For His sake.

For your sake.

For the sake of your children.

For the sake of their children, and their children, and their children.

Your passionate pursuit of Jesus today will set the course for generations who come after you. Isn’t it worth it?

This issue really comes down to what you love.

What DO you love?

The sensational? The fantastic? The immediate? The trendy? The popular? The fun? What others think of you?

You’ve got to love Jesus more. You’ve got to.

The video below is by a guy named Derek Webb. He used to sing with Caedmon’s Call, years back. Since then he’s released quite a few of his own solo albums, many of them very controversial, mainly because he’s willing to tackle some tough issues in a straight-forward way. You won’t agree with everything he writes and sings about, but on this one, he’s got it right.

The song is called, “The Spirit VS The Kick Drum.”

Here’s my challenge to you: Listen/watch the video and follow along with the lyrics below it. Try to get Derek’s point that many, many things compete for our love and allegiance, but Jesus has to be number one.

Then decide what you will do to make Jesus the greatest desire of your life.

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“A-one and a-two and a-chick-a-boom-a-chick.”

I don’t want the Spirit; I want the kick drum
I don’t want the Spirit; I want the kick drum
I know how it works, so I’m not dumb
I don’t want the Spirit; I want the kick drum

Like sex without love
Like peace without the Dove
Like a crime scene without the blood
I don’t want the Spirit; you know I want a kick drum

I don’t want the Son; I want a jury of peers
I don’t want the Son; I want a jury of peers
I’m scared of who’s going to see my tears
I don’t want the Son; I want a jury of peers

Like lies without the truth
Like wine without the fruit
Like a skydive without the chute
I don’t want the Son; you know I want a jury of peers
I don’t want the Spirit; you know I want a kick drum

“Oh, groove with me baby”

I don’t want the Father; I want a vending machine
I don’t want the Father; I want a vending machine
I know what I want, if you know what I mean
I don’t want the Father; I want a vending machine

Like heaven without gates
Like hell without flames
Like life without pain
I don’t want the Father; you know I want a vending machine
I don’t want the Son; you know I want a jury of peers
I don’t want the Spirit; you know I want a kick drum
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Podcast 18: New Year: New Life – Getting your spirtual growth going

Posted by Carey 
· Wednesday, January 9th, 2013 

Getting your spiritual growth going – Podcast 18 (New Year: New Life)

Continuing from last week’s episode, today we are going to look at where everything about a Christian Home and Family begins… with the spiritual growth and health of those who lead the home.

I’m going to challenge you to seriously consider the importance of your own spiritual health and growth, and take it more seriously than you ever have before… for the sake of what God wants to do in your family for generations to come! At the end of the podcast, I’m going to introduce a set of new resources I’ve developed to help you kick-start your new commitment!

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Today’s Presenter:

Carey Green teaching on marriage first

Carey Green
Founder & Host
www.ChristianHomeandFamily.com

SUMMARY OF TODAY’S PODCAST

The 3 main areas of focus of this ministry are 1) Your personal relationship with Jesus Christ, 2) The health of your home, beginning with your marriage, and 3) The development of Godly practices in the realm of parenting. This episode of the podcast focuses on that #1 point, your own personal relationship with Jesus Christ. It’s important:

  • Vitally important
  • Life-transformingly important – for you and your children (and their children, and their children, etc.)

If you don’t get your spiritual growth going, you may wind up squandering your life and possibly the lives of those God has given you to lead.

Links & Resources mentioned in this podcast:

  • Covenant Eyes (affiliate link*)
  • You are invited to prayerfully consider partnering with Christian Home and Family.
  • My new spiritual growth resources: “RECHARGE“

* These resources are affiliate links – you pay the same price, but part of your purchase goes to support the ministry of Christian Home and Family. Thanks!

A couple of brief reminders:

  • I’d love to do some future episodes that are “Q & A” in nature, regarding anything related to living as a Christian family. Please submit YOUR questions to me in the comments below or in any of these ways.
  • Christian Home and Family is supported by generous donors like you. If you’d like to know more about how you can partner with me in this vital mission, see my partner page.
  • I am available for SPEAKING engagement at your next retreat, conference, or seminar series. Check out my speaking page to find out more.

NEXT EPISODE: January 16, 2013 – Podcast 19 – New Year, New Life: Building a healthy marriage

Meat & Potatoes by Adam ReyThe main music track used in the Christian Home and Family Podcast is entitled, “Midian” and is from Adam Rey’s instrumental album Meat & Potatoes – Adam has generously given me permission to use his music, so please, support his generosity by checking out and purchasing his music at www.heyreyguitar.com – (no affiliate relationship, Adam’s just my friend.)

Also, the “resources” music track is from the www.musicrevoluation.com site.

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4 reasons you need content filtering or accountability software

Posted by Carey 
· Wednesday, November 7th, 2012 

If you don’t use content filtering software, you are naive or foolish.

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If you don’t use content filtering, you are either naive or a fool!
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That’s the gist of what Pastor and counselor Brad Hambrick said recently in a podcast interview I did with him on the topic of “Christian Families in a Sexualized World.” He went on to explain.

  • If you think you don’t need content filtering, or that your kids won’t get into bad stuff on the internet – YOU ARE NAIVE.
  • If you know the possibility is there and don’t do anything to prevent it – YOU ARE FOOLISH.

I can’t agree more.

But content filtering should be used out of wisdom, not panic

Christians should be the most peaceful and confident people on the planet. We serve the sovereign and almighty King of the universe. We have nothing to fear.

There is no reason to panic… not even about the dangers the internet holds. You and your children are safe in the arms of the LORD.

HOWEVER,

The LORD uses a variety of means to provide His protection to you… and one of those is His instruction to live wisely. So it is out of wisdom and not panic that we should consider measures like content filtering software. In this post I’ll be unashamedly recommending Covenant Eyes as the service of choice. At the end of the post I’ll tell you why.

The truth is that there are very real dangers the internet brings, and we don’t want to be naive or foolish.

4 reasons your family needs content filtering or accountability software

reason for content filtering - video sharing1. Video sharing sites

YouTube is the 2nd largest search engine in the world (second to Google, which owns YouTube). And YouTube is not the only video sharing site out there. Though many of these sites have content guidelines that prohibit users uploading pornographic or offensive content, there’s still a lot of wiggle room in terms of what is deemed pornographic or offensive. It’s not only easy, but VERY easy for members of your family to find tantalizing things on these sharing sites. Things that could bring temptations that you are better off without.

reason for content accountability - social networks2. Social Networks

Social networks are a great thing. I love my Facebook account because of the people from years gone by with whom I’ve been able to reconnect. But part of the sad truth about that is that it’s more and more common for improper relationships to begin over social networks. It’s not the fault of the social network, it’s the fault of a person who dove in with no accountability. Social networks are also a context where people can easily portray themselves to be something they are not. Predators can pose as teens. Teens can pose as adults. And none of that is good. The simple truth is that it can be hard to tell who is genuine and who is not.

gaming - reason for internet accountability3. Gaming

Online gaming is huge… really huge. From Words with Friends to Halo, the varieties of online games seem endless. While there’s nothing wrong with the diversion of a game, there is something drastically wrong when the amount of time spent in a fantasy world begins to eclipse the amount of time spent in the real world. Wisdom demands that we monitor our time online to ensure that right priorities are not being pushed aside for the sake of lesser ones. And some folks in your family may need a little accountability along that line from time to time.

4. Pornography

This is the issue most of us think of when we think of filtering or accountability software… and for good reason. The plague of pornography is spreading across the world thanks to the internet. The issue is becoming more and more significant among teens. Check out this info-graphic about teens and porn from the folks at Covenant Eyes…

porn - why you need content filtering and accountability software

Content filtering  and accountability software is available for most modern devices

Covenant Eyes provides content filtering and accountability software, for computers and most mobile devices. By using it you can take effective measures to protect your family, be on guard, and open the door to meaningful conversations about these important issues.

That’s where you want to end up… talking about all these issues openly, honestly, and in light of the calling and purpose Christ has for your family.

I can’t stress how helpful these kinds of intentional steps can be in helping those who are struggling and preventing those who are not from ever beginning the struggle.

What steps do you take to avoid these danger spots of the internet?

(all links to Covenant Eyes in this post are affiliate links)

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Spiritual health – the essential first step

Posted by Carey 
· Tuesday, July 10th, 2012 

Spiritual Health – the essential first step

All Scripture is breathed out by God and profitable for teaching, for reproof, for correction, and for training in righteousness.- 2 Timothy 3:16

Spiritual Health

I’ve already mentioned how vital it is for the leader in the home to be setting the pace.  To do that, your spiritual lifehas to be on track.  If that’s going to happen, you have to be increasing in your knowledge and wise application of the scriptures.  Look at the benefits!

  • The ability to wisely teach.
  • The ability to wisely reprove.
  • The ability to correct as you ought.
  • The ability to train others (and yourself) in righteousness.

Isn’t that what your family needs from you?  Then you MUST start with the scriptures.

There are as many ways of studying the scriptures as there are people.  Nevertheless, I’m going to be posting some “tried and true” methods of Bible study that have proven to be beneficial over the years.  But first, there’s something very basic you have to get straight.

Spiritual Health step #1: Make a plan

Nothing that you really want or need to do happens by accident.  Bible study is no exception.  You will have to make it happen (with the Spirit’s help), which means you need to have a plan.

Maybe planning sounds unspiritual to you, but it’s not. Paul said that one of the wonderful things the Holy Spirit desires to produce in your life is “self control.” (Galatians 5:23)  Why self control?  Because you need it in order to actually do what you need to do… study and learn the scriptures!

1. Plan a time.

Don’t expect that you’ll somehow “fit in” your Bible study.  Believe me… you won’t.  The demands of life will push Bible study out of your schedule.  You also have a mortal enemy (satan) who will do everything he can to distract you an demolish your day so that you will not have time to spend in the scriptures.  And if you are going to serve your family as a Dad, Mom, Grandparent, etc., you have to set the example of what a mature, godly Christian is.  Don’t give yourself any excuses… you need to plan a time.

2. Make it a regular time

Regularity is key.  New research shows that the oft-quoted “21-days to build a habit” is much too optimistic!  For truly “new” habits it takes closer to 2 months!  You’d better get started!  I’d suggest you make it a daily appointment – on your calendar – non-negotiable.  Consistency is your ally.  It’s how you build good habits in action and thinking.  Don’t let your week slip away… plan to spend time in the scriptures daily.

3. Organize your time in the scriptures.

Too often Christians pick up their Bibles without any idea of what they are going to read or study.  They resort to a favorite passage, or flop open their Bible and read wherever the pages separate.  Doesn’t the Lord deserve a more diligent effort than that? Don’t you need something a bit more specific to your life? You need a plan that guides you through some kind of systematic study, ensuring that you are learning and digesting the entire counsel of God over time.

You’ve got to start with Bible study… and you’ve got start it with a plan.  Make the time.  Make a plan.  Stick with it.  A wonderful plan that you don’t follow won’t do you any good.

QUESTION: Do you have a scheduled time to study the scriptures? Share some of the things you’ve found helpful.

QUESTION: Do you have a systematic plan for studying the Bible?  Please, share your successes!

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Spiritual Health for the family starts here – FF#3

Posted by Carey 
· Monday, May 14th, 2012 

Of the 3 parts of man: body – soul – spirit, spiritual health is the area that most affects the rest of life.

Prior posts in this series
can be found HERE and HERE
Think about it… you’ve heard many stories of people with physical, mental, or emotional disabilities who are still able to live vibrant Christian lives because of a strong spiritual walk with Christ. Those are the kinds of testimonies that inspire us the most because they demonstrate how Christ’s life in us, through His Holy Spirit, is absolutely sufficient, no matter the obstacles.

Spiritual health: My story

My mother was already a faithful church goer the day I was born, and she still is today (she turns 84 the year of this writing).  I joke sometimes that I was born right into the sin and degradation of the church nursery!  No joke, I was in the church nursery the first Sunday after I was born.

The church we attended was an “Independent, fundamental, Bible believing, King James Only, women don’t wear pants” kind of Baptist church.  To say it was conservative is an understatement.  Thankfully, our church leadership was rabid about spreading the gospel, and I heard it clearly presented every week.  By the time I was 5 years old, I had placed my faith in Jesus.  I was very young, but the grace of God isn’t hampered by the age of the one He calls.

Growing up in that type of church, I learned all the Christian jargon and practices early on.  I learned to address the adults in the church family as “Brother” or “Sister” so-and-so.  I could give the right answers in Sunday School, could find the book of Hezekiah in my Bible (you try it, I dare you), and participate in “sword drills” right alongside the best of them.  I went to church camp every summer once I became of age.

But one thing I didn’t develop early on was a sense of intimacy with Christ.

Maybe it was my youthful perspective, but church seemed to be about rules, and learning to be good, and “winning souls.”  I was expected to learn and practice some very good and needful things, like prayer, and Bible reading – but the connection between those things and spiritual health were never made, at least not in a way that I understood.

By the time I hit high school, I was not much different than the average kid in my mid-sized, Texas town.  I was “good,” but not necessarily because of Christ.  Under the surface I was asking vital questions about my faith.   “Is this all there is to Christianity?  Rules?  Trying harder?  Being good?”  I knew in my heart that if that’s all it was, I couldn’t do it.  I didn’t have it in me to pull it off, and I wasn’t sure I wanted to…

In spite of all that, God was very gracious.  By the end of High School He had placed a handful of significant people in my life who seemed to have vibrant relationships with Jesus, and that gave me hope that perhaps there really was more to the Christian life.  In college, I got involved in campus ministries that began to turn on some of the lights for me, making the connection between spiritual disciplines (bible study, prayer), and true relationship with Jesus.  Spiritual health was finally making its way onto my radar, and I began to experience the reality of Jesus in new, life-giving ways.  Praise Him for His faithfulness!

As I began to truly grow in my faith, one thought came dominantly to my mind, first as a hunch and later as a truth.  Here it is:

Every issue that I face in life is really an issue of spiritual health.

It doesn’t matter if it’s financial, physical, emotional, relational, or practical – every issue is really a spiritual issue.  That means that the degree of spiritual health I am experiencing at any given time will directly determine how I manage or handle the issues that touch my life.  If I’m in good spiritual health, walking daily and vitally with the LORD, then I’ll be more likely to handle those situations with His grace and strength.  If I am not in good spiritual health, then I don’t have much hope of handling the situation in a way that honors God and does what is right.

Spiritual health: Your story

The first thing I encourage you to assess and address is your spiritual health.

As I said before, you can’t expect to build a home centered around Christ if your life is not centered around Him first.  How healthy are you, spiritually speaking?  As a Christian (Christ-follower), it is imperative that you be closely connected to your Master at all times. He is your rock, your center, your life, your power for living. Those are not just church-speak, they are statements of divine reality.  Without His divine person abiding in you, in an “at home” sort of way, you will experience a continual frustration to be healthy as a person.

Jesus taught these truths by using an image common to the people of His day… a vine.

Abide in me, and I in you. As the branch cannot bear fruit by itself, unless it abides in the vine, neither can you, unless you abide in me. I am the vine; you are the branches. Whoever abides in me and I in him, he it is that bears much fruit, for apart from me you can do nothing. – John 15:4-5

Notice two of the clarifying phrases that Jesus uses:

  • Abide in me (translation: “stay closely connected to me”)
  • Apart from me  you can do nothing. (translation: “without a vital spiritual relationship with me, you’re done”)

This is a classic “if / then” statement.  IF you abide in Jesus, THEN you will bear much fruit in your life.  IF you do not abide in Jesus, THEN you can do nothing.

When Jesus says that apart from Him you can do nothing, He’s not saying that there’s absolutely no way you can function in this world when you are not close to Him.  You’ll still breathe, you’ll still walk through life, and make decisions, and speak to people, and accomplish things.  But you won’t be able to do anything of lasting, spiritual significance, things that are “much fruit” in Jesus’ eyes, apart from walking closely with Him.

That’s talking about spiritual health.

So let me ask you again, how is your spiritual health? Can you see evidence in your life, the “much fruit” Jesus spoke of, that shows you that you are walking closely with Him?

Your Spirit – Before and after Christ

Before you came to faith in Christ, you had a spirit, but it was dead (Ephesians 1:2-5; Colossians 2:13; Ephesians 5:14; 1 Peter 3:18). Practically, that means that before God graciously reached out to you through the enlivening work of the Spirit, you were unable to commune with Him at all (1 Corinthians 2:14). You simply functioned out of your mind, will, and emotions without much true awareness of Him.  Dead people do not speak, act, or respond – and spiritually you were dead.

When Christ awakened you to faith through the work of His Holy Spirit (John 6:44; John 6:63;Romans 8:9; Romans 8:15; 2 Corinthians 3:16-18), your spirit came alive, you were “born again” (John 3:3). Being awakened by the Spirit, you were able to respond to God’s grace, revealed to you in the person of Jesus Christ. You recognized your need for rescue from your sinful state, and saw that Jesus is the Savior of sinners. That was the moment of faith, the moment of your conversion.

Once God’s Spirit comes into your life and raises your spirit from the dead, you embark on a journey you’ve never known before. For the first time you have more to concern yourself with than only body and soul – you are body, soul, and a new-born spirit. You are a new creation (2 Corinthians 5:17; Colossians 3:9-10), alive because the Creator Himself now dwells within you (Colossians 1:27;Galatians 2:20).

That is the point where the vine and branch illustration comes to the forefront. As a person who is trusting in Jesus, you have a divine resource you never had before – the Holy Spirit of God, living inside you in a very real way. It is through the Spirit that Jesus lives in you, and desires to live through you. He is your life, your source, the well from which you are to draw, day after day.

Like any new life, this new life needs nourishment if it is to survive.

The things you’ve heard all your Christian life are true – you do need to read the Bible daily. You need to learn how to pray. You need to spend time with the Lord, as you would in any relationship. On the resources page of the website, you will find tools to help you with the practical, day to day task of keeping your faith strong and your relationship with Christ vital, including a 19 session “Spiritual Growth Notebook” I compiled years ago. Feel free to download it… it’s free.

Over the years, Mindi (my wife) and I have come to believe that most personal problems we have, whether they be emotional or mental, start out on the spiritual level. When you are walking closely with the Savior, drawing from His strength day to day, the difficulties of life don’t affect you in the same way they once did. You find yourself possessing strength and stability you didn’t have previously. I’m not saying life’s suddenly easy or perfect.  I am saying that you now have the means by which to live out a successful Christian life, because the only one who has ever lived that kind of life (Jesus) is now living within you.

Spiritual Check-Up

If you go to your doctor for a physical, he’ll use a stethoscope, tongue depressor, a blood-pressure cuff, and various other tools to measure how your body is functioning at that moment. By doing so, he makes an estimation of your overall physical health.

When it comes to assessing your spiritual health we have no such tools (wouldn’t it be nice if we did?). To gauge spiritual health, you’ll have to do a more subjective evaluation, which makes the process more difficult. Jesus said that it is “out of the heart” that sinful (and good) actions and words come (Matthew 12:24).  I take that to mean that if you want to do a spiritual check-up, you’ll have to honestly look at the state of your heart as expressed in attitudes and actions.

Sounds pretty simple, but it’s not. That’s because there are many things we can easily be objective about, but our own hearts is not one of them. We’ve lived in our sin-soaked selves for so long that we believe that the way we think and feel is “normal.” But in reality much of how we’ve come to think and feel is based on human wisdom, worldly philosophies, and self-protection, instead of on the truth of God. The Bible calls these old habits of thinking and feeling “flesh” (Romans 8:4-13), or the “old self” (Romans 6:6; Ephesians 4:22; Colossians 3:9).

When we become a child of God through faith in Jesus Christ, we are given a new heart, but our old habits of thinking and feeling linger in our souls.  The process of Christian growth is all about learning to lean on the truth of God as our mode of operation, instead of the distorted beliefs and feelings we’ve embraced all our lives.

The reason I point out the existence of the “flesh” that still hangs onto you, is because I believe you’re going to need some help doing a spiritual check-up.

You don’t see yourself clearly, and you need an objective set of eyes to help you. The first Person you need to enlist as an ally is the Holy Spirit.

In describing the Spirit’s role in our lives, Jesus said He is “the Spirit of truth” (John 14:7), our “helper” and “teacher” (John 14:26), and our “guide” (John 16:13). The Apostle Paul teaches that Holy Spirit “leads” us in our Christian life (Romans 8:14), and helps us to understand the things God has done and is doing I our lives (1 Corinthians 2:12). As we specifically battle our flesh, the Spirit directly opposes it, and leads us in the opposite direction (Galatians 5:16-18).  The first thing you should do is adopt a mindset of dependence on the Holy Spirit. Ask Him to reveal things that are keeping you from being spiritually healthy, no matter how difficult they may be to face. Submit yourself fully to His guidance.

Secondarily to the Holy Spirit, you’ll probably need the help of a trusted Christian friend. Think of someone who is a devoted follower of Jesus, someone who cares deeply for you and your spiritual health. They should be a person who knows you fairly well and has opportunity to interact with and observe you in a variety of settings. It may be a spouse, a parent, a teacher from church, or someone else – but you need to include another objective opinion in your assessment so that your blind-spots do not remain outside your vision.

Though we can’t get specific measurements of your spiritual condition, as the doctor would regarding your physical condition, we can use a handful of practical tools to help in the process. As I mentioned a few paragraphs back, your attitudes and actions reveal much of what is going on inside your spirit, and you are wise to pay close attention to them.

The following questions are based on the Apostle Paul’s teaching in Galatians 5:16-26. There, Paul provides two lists – one that details the type of things that we think and do when we are controlled by our flesh, and another that highlights the type of things that we think and do when we are controlled by the Spirit. Use these lists as gauges or barometers, to help you assess the state of your spiritual health.  You don’t have to be perfect in any of the areas listed, but you should be progressing in humble growth as you desire to please the LORD.

Give a copy of these questions to that trusted person you identified a minute ago. Ask them to answer the questions as honestly as they can as they pertain to you. I have no doubt that their participation will help you immensely.

Questions for a spiritual check up
(based on Galatians 5:16-26)

Vs. 16 But I say, walk by the Spirit, and you will not gratify the desires of the flesh.
Vs. 17 For the desires of the flesh are against the Spirit, and the desires of the Spirit are against the flesh, for these are opposed to each other, to keep you from doing the things you want to do.
Vs. 18 But if you are led by the Spirit, you are not under the law.
Vs. 19 Now the works of the flesh are evident: sexual immorality, impurity, sensuality,
Vs. 20 idolatry, sorcery, enmity, strife, jealousy, fits of anger, rivalries, dissensions, divisions,
Vs. 21 envy, drunkenness, orgies, and things like these. I warn you, as I warned you before, that those who do such things will not inherit the kingdom of God.
Vs. 22 But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness,
Vs. 23 gentleness, self-control; against such things there is no law.
Vs. 24 And those who belong to Christ Jesus have crucified the flesh with its passions and desires.
Vs. 25 If we live by the Spirit, let us also walk by the Spirit.
Vs. 26 Let us not become conceited, provoking one another, envying one another.

Works of the flesh

  • Do you have a true desire (not just a feeling of obligation), to live obediently under the leadership of the Spirit of God? (vs. 16-18)
  • Are you currently engaged in any form of sexual immorality, impurity, or sensuality (vs. 19, 21)? Some possibilities to consider are adultery, sex before marriage, pornography, sexting, sex games, inappropriate flirting, etc. How does this reflect on your ability and willingness to be satisfied fully with the delights of relationship with God?
  • Can you identify anything in your life that draws too much focus and attention in comparison to the rest of your life and responsibilities (an idol – vs.20)? You might consider your work, career, family, hobbies, recreation activities, entertainment, etc.
  • Are you practicing any sort of spirituality that focuses on gaining or using spiritual power  for selfish ends (sorcery – vs. 20)? You might consider astrology, health and wealth theology, use of crystals, past life investigations, native American spiritism, use of spells or incantations, etc. These are areas of spiritual dependency not focused on God. What does that say for the health of your relationship with Him?
  • Are there any situations where you feel a sense of being “against” another person (vs. 20)? Do you have any sense in which you can honestly say you love them, or are your feelings toward them entirely negative? Does God’s great mercy on you cause you to consider an attitude of mercy toward that person at all (Matthew 18:23-35)?
  • Do you find yourself struggling with jealousy or envy toward others (vs. 20, 21)? How does this reflect on your ability to trust God with your needs and desires?
  • Do you struggle with unrighteous anger (vs. 20)? Consider possible patterns of behavior you might have such as yelling, throwing things, cursing in response to issues, breaking things, and physically or emotionally intimidating or hurting others. What does this kind of anger indicate about whether or not you are resting in God’s good will and plan for your life? Who are you really angry at, the person or situation, or God?
  • Is there any regular pattern of substance abuse ongoing in your life (vs. 21)? Consider alcohol, drugs (including marijuana), pain killers, prescription medications, coffee, sugar, etc. How does dependence on any substance reflect on your willingness and ability to depend on God?
  • Paul ends this list with the phrase, “and things like these.” Are there any additional hang-ups in your life that you feel are detrimental to your healthy relationship with God?
  • Read the last sentence of vs. 21. What will be the final outcome if your spiritual life is controlled by these kinds of things rather than by the Spirit of God? Ponder the significance of that possibility.

Fruit of the Spirit

  • Is love for other people a growing part of your attitudes and actions (vs. 22)? If not, what does that say about your awareness of and cooperation with the Spirit of God within you?
  • Is your life characterized by joy most of the time (vs. 22)? I’m not asking if you are happy all the time, I’m asking if you are able to see God’s silver lining behind the clouds of difficult circumstances and live in light of it most of the time? If not, what do you need to do to strengthen your confidence in God’s loving sovereignty in your life?
  • Are you generally a peaceful person (vs. 22)? How could you better draw on the Spirit’s strength to rest in Him when difficult situations arise?
  • Does patience characterize your attitude toward people and circumstances (vs. 22)? What does impatience reveal about your ability to trust God with all things, including people? Do you intentionally lean on the Spirit of God, asking Him to help you here?
  • Would you describe yourself as a “kind” person (vs. 22), or are you characterized more as being distant, aloof, or non-engaging? As you look at this issue, what is controlling you most of the time, your insecurities or the Spirit of God?
  • Do you enjoy and look for ways to express “goodness” in life and toward others (vs. 22)? I’m not only asking if you DO good things, I’m asking if you DESIRE to do and be good for the sake of others. Ask the Spirit to reveal what He sees in you.
  • Are you a faithful person (vs. 22)? To your spouse and family? To your employer? To your friends? The Spirit of God produces a reliable, trustworthy spirit in you as you submit to Him. How would you assess your health in this area?
  • Are you generally kind to people (vs. 22), or do irritability, harshness, indifference, disregard, or aloof attitudes characterize you?
  • Does goodness characterize the tone of your life (vs. 22)?  In other words, are you seen by others as a person who loves and does good?
  • Is faithfulness characteristic of your life (vs. 22)?  In other words, do you keep your word?  Can others depend on you to fulfill your commitments and responsibilities?  Do you live out an active faith toward God?
  • Are you a gentle person (vs. 23), or does a grim, stern, or even harsh attitude describe you better?
  • Do you practice self-control regularly in the normal course of your life (vs. 23)?  Some ways to tell… are there any lingering habits that you struggle to break?  Do you “fly off the handle” easily?  Can you say “No” to that tempting dessert when you are watching your diet?

Prayerfully consider these questions, taking the time necessary to truly hear from the LORD about the condition of your spiritual life.  It may seem overwhelming, so break it down into bite-sized chunks.

You can take these steps to process what the LORD has revealed…

  1. Write down “themes” or patterns about your behavior that you notice.
  2. Prayerfully narrow them down to the 2 or 3 “biggies” you believe the LORD would have you address.
  3. Ask the LORD to give you a heart that desires to see His will accomplished in those areas.
  4. Find passages of scripture (maybe from the passage above) that reveal God’s will regarding those issues.
  5. Write them on a card to take with you each day.
  6. Use that card to make your focus on those areas a “project” – something you are prayerfully attentive to each day.
  7. Start each day asking God to transform you in those areas.

Q: How are you doing spiritually?

Q: What steps do you need to take to shore up any areas that are lacking?

NEXT POST IN THE SERIES: Do you have a healthy soul? – FF#4

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how you are wired

Do you know how you’re wired?

Posted by Carey 
· Monday, May 14th, 2012 

How you’re wired matters… and you need to understand it if you’re going to live out your great responsibility.

When I was a kid I was part of the Boy Scouts. Every year we did the “Chicken Creek Hike” (yes, I grew up in the south). One year, after going on the hike for the past 3 years, it was my turn to lead the hike. It was a weird feeling because I hadn’t paid a lot of attention about HOW we got to the destination on my previous hikes. I just followed the leader.

But this time, I was the leader. And I wasn’t sure where I was going.

Do you know where you’re going?

You can’t lead others to be healthy, unless you are healthy.  You won’t be able to lead others, until you lead yourself – and I’m sure you know, that’ not as easy as it sounds.  We are complex creatures.

God made us beautifully complex from the moment of creation.  Unspoiled by sin, I’m sure Adam and Eve were a wonder to behold.  I wish I could have known them (someday I will).  But when sin entered the picture it twisted their (and our) beautiful complexity into a mess that is itself complicated beyond recognition. Emotional instability, mental illness, birth defects, personality issues, and many more such things are examples of what sin’s presence in the world has done to us.  Because of that fact, every one of us has been tainted by sin’s far-reaching effects in multiple ways, from the inside out.

THAT is a big part of why it’s extremely difficult for us to take responsibility for ourselves.  

We are broken in ways beyond our comprehension, but nevertheless are called by our Savior to be responsible stewards anyway.

That’s the starting point for this website & everything I have to say.  You are probably here because you want to build a Christ-centered home: to have a healthy, Christ-honoring marriage, to see your children love the LORD with all their heart, soul, mind, and strength, to extend His kingdom through your family.  But before we can go there, we have to understand this:  we don’t have a chance of creating Christ-centered homes unless we learn how to be Christ-centered, healthy individuals first.

body, soul, spirit stewardshipIf you are going to be a good steward of yourself, then you need to understand yourself as best you can.  You, and everyone in your home, are created by God in a “triune” sort of way (sound familiar?). You are made up of body, soul, and spirit.

Yes, I know there’s been an ongoing debate through the years about whether man is made up of two parts (body and soul) or three parts, as I’ve suggested. I’m not going to get into all that, for two reasons.

1) There are plenty of other, wonderful resources where you can find information on that debate.

2) I’m personally settled on the issue after years of study. I truly believe the scripture clearly teaches that God has made us with body, soul, and spirit (1 Thessalonians 5:23). So I’m going with that…

What do I mean by body, soul, and spirit?

The body is obvious, it’s the biological shell that houses us as we walk planet earth. It requires nutritious food, adequate rest, and sufficient exercise in order to do its job.

The soul is an intangible part of us that is comprised of mind (our ability to think), will (our ability to choose), and emotions (our ability to feel).

The spirit is also intangible and is the part of us that discerns, understands, and applies truly spiritual things.  The spirit of the Christian communes directly with God, and grows into Christ-likeness over time through the sanctifying work of the Holy Spirit (Romans 8:14, 1 Corinthians 6:11).

It sounds neat and tidy the way I’ve just explained it, but it’s not.  The three parts of man are woven together in intricate ways that will forever remain a mystery to us.  But for our purposes it is helpful to recognize these three parts of who we are.  Each of them is an area of our own lives over which God has made us stewards. In other words, we are to rightly manage and care for every part of who God has made us to be – body, soul, and spirit.

Personally, I have traveled far too long on the road of life without a balanced and right awareness of my responsibility in each of those areas. At any given time, I have excelled in maintaining one, or in good seasons possibly two of them, and ignored the other(s).

As God has shown me the importance of being healthy in all three areas, He’s brought a deep conviction to my heart, and has convinced me that I need to pass those convictions on to others who are willing to learn, listen, and apply them to their own lives.  My prayer is that you might be one of them.

I said all that to say this…

It won’t take you long to notice that in every area of this website, the theme of good stewardship in all 3 of those areas is emphasized repeatedly. To use a modern phrase, I’m addressing the health of the Christian home and family in a “holistic” way, which should be nothing new, since it’s how God has always seen us and dealt with us. In approaching your life and home in this way, I’m encouraging you to take Paul’s words seriously when he says, “So, whether you eat or drink, or whatever you do, do all to the glory of God.” (1 Corinthians 10:31).

In the pages of this website, I cover areas that seem natural for a website focusing on the Christian home and family – marriage, parenting, communication, etc.  But I will also write on things that may not seem to fit that topic as naturally – nutrition, exercise, education, etc.

The reason?

God intends our lives to be integrated, not segmented or compartmentalized, and the stewardship of our lives needs to be carried out in light of that truth.

So, as we wrap up this post, prayerfully and seriously consider:

  • You are body – physical, with physical needs.
  • You are soul – emotional, mental, willful, all which have their particular needs.
  • You are spirit – able to relate to God in deep, meaningful relationship.  Your spirit has its distinct needs as well.
  • And here’s the kicker – you are RESPONSIBLE before God to steward each of those areas well.

Q: What difference does it make to you that you are body, soul, and spirit?

Q: How can you better steward yourself (and consequently, your family) in all 3 of those areas?

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