One of the passages that the LORD has graciously used to kindly “beat me up” since the early days of my marriage is 1 Peter 3:7
Over the years I’ve learned (many times the “hard way”) what it means to live with Mindi in an “understanding way” as Peter instructs.
It’s more than:
- being nice
- providing income
- being at home (instead of at the bar, the gym, the office, etc.)
- not yelling
- helping out with the dishes now and then
- not leaving your underwear on the floor…
It’s about HER.
Guys… we have got to learn to UNDERSTAND our spouses. Peter says that when we live with them in that way… things are being done God’s way.
An event for married men
For the longest time, I’ve had a heart to share what I’ve learned in this area with those who need it most.
Married men.
Married Christian men who want more for their marriages but may not know exactly how to accomplish it.
I know you guys… you truly WANT to care for your wife well, but you’re like me sometimes:
- proud
- defensive
- uncertain what to do
- confused by the differences between how you think and feel and how she thinks and feels
Did I get it right?
I’ve finally sensed the LORD telling me it’s time… to put on an event for men that will help us, together, to explore some of those issues and come out on the other side better equipped to love our wives as we really want to.
It’s called:
It’s intentionally going to be for a small group of men -8 to 10, max. If there is a greater demand than that… I’ll schedule more of these events.
It’s a small-group format because I think it’s important that we have time to discuss and that everyone has the opportunity to express the details of their own situation and their own frustrations.
That’s how we can know how to best help each other as brothers in Christ.
And that’s how we’ll be able to discern the best way to apply the truths of scripture to the situations we face.
It’s going to be a great time… and I’d love to see you there.
As I said – space is limited, so if you are at all interested, don’t wait. (But I will start a waiting list if needed).
Thanks guys… I pray God’s blessing on you, your wife, and your marriage.
by 
Carey, unfortunately I can’t make it out to Colorado for this event.
But I would be fascinated to hear your take on this if you ever decide to blog or podcast in depth about it. This passage has been one that I’ve felt the need to study many times. I still wonder exactly what it means to live with my wife in an understanding way – or how that is to be played out in my life.
Hey Loren, I’m considering writing a short book or study on the subject, and you’ve just given me the idea of a podcast. Pretty good suggestion. I’ll work on it!
Would love to attend., unfortunately it’s on the other side of the Atlantic Ocean for me….bummer
Hi Carey,
This has been an issue in my household for some time now. I couldn’t seem to figure out why being home, assisting with household chores, helping take care of our children, etc, is not enough for my wife. She often says that I don’t take the time to understand her and that if I’d just take time out to talk to her it would help. And it’s not that I don’t want to talk, but that I don’t always know what to talk about or how to get it started, you know? I want to learn more so that I can help better my marriage instead of hurt it. Do you have more scriptures that would help in this area? Thank you so much for sharing…I really needed this!!!
Hi Mario. Thanks for chiming in! Keep your eye on the blog, I’ll be writing more on this in the near future!